A Couple’s Guide to Moving in Together
Moving is hard enough, but when it is your first time merging all of your things with your significant other’s things – it can get messy!
It is a big step forward in any relationship to decide to live together, whether you just got married or you are just sick of commuting back and forth between places. Moving in together means more than packing up your belongings and coming over – it is blending your past and present with someone else’s.
This guide is here to help you navigate the tricky parts so that moving in together is a breeze.
Leave your baggage behind
No one is accusing you of being a hoarder, but all of us hang on to particular things that don’t serve us anymore. It might be the horrible sweater from your Grandmother or your favorite ‘skinny’ outfit, but these things need to go. Hanging on to items that you just can’t bring yourself to get rid of is like harboring a guilty conscience. Think something nice about the person who gave the item to you and move on. No sense starting fresh with your spouse to only have that same guilty feeling when you look in your closet.
If it is actual junk you are fighting about, think about displaying it in a different way. No one wants to live in a frat house, but put his posters in frames and it could look more vintage.
Sounds cliché but compromise is the number one best tool in any successful relationship. You will never do exactly what you want to do, how you want to do it again. Embrace this and let your partner teach you something.
Decorating together is always a great way to get to know the other person, so don’t spend your time fighting about the little stuff.
Shop together as well. It will be easier to navigate the bigger purchases when you are both there.
You might need a ‘man cave’
Somewhere in the depths of every man is a desire to have his own turf, so why fight it? In my experience the garage is the most natural place for a man cave, but you could also designate a room just for him. This is also a great solution for what to do with some of his stuff that won’t ever be decorating the rest of the house. Any sort of game room or T.V. room can act as a man cave because all they need is somewhere to hang out in their underwear and play video games with no judgement.
Same goes for the ladies! Everyone needs their own space where they couldn’t possibly be more comfortable. So designate your spot – maybe you have a home gym, garden or office. Design this room to best suit your needs.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
When you first move it together it can be overwhelming to try to decorate everything at once. Start one room at a time or in small chunks. Buy items as they are necessary, not all at once, as this will save you money and several headaches. If you wait to buy more meaningful pieces from a trip you took together you will end up with a more eclectic mix of stuff that is unique to you as a couple.
Keep this rule in mind even have you have settled in. It may seem like a good idea to snap about the toilet seat or clothes on the floor, but in the long run you build resentment. Talk it out with them – are they too busy to pick up their clothes? Figure out what the reason is behind the behaviour before you nag them.
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